A Fool is Deceitful
There are two sides to every fool. The appealing, needy, sometimes even “godly”-looking side invites you in, but the trap is set. Proverbs 14:8, The wisdom of the prudent is to understand his way, But the folly of fools is deceit.
Fools hide their true natures until they get what they want. Once the “fish’ is hooked, the fool is in total control, and a perverted form of intimacy is accomplished.
A Fool is Always “Right”
Self reliant and self centered, a fool rejects all attempts to reason with him.
Proverbs 12:15, The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, But a wise man is he who listens to counsel.
A Fool is Closed Off, Proverbs 18:2, A fool does not delight in understanding, But only in revealing his own mind.
A Fool Creates Strife, Proverbs 18:6-7, A fool’s lips bring strife, And his mouth calls for blows. A fool’s mouth is his ruin, And his lips are the snare of his soul.
A Fool Causes Conflict, Proverbs 13:20, He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.
A Fool Spreads Slander, Proverbs 10:18, He who conceals hatred has lying lips, And he who spreads slander is a fool.
A Fool is Wearisome, Proverbs 27:3, A stone is heavy and the sand weighty, But the provocation of a fool is heavier than both of them.
A Fool enjoys his Foolishness, Proverbs 10:23, Doing wickedness is like sport to a fool; And so is wisdom to a man of understanding.
A Fool is Self Contained
Not only are fools ways right in their own eyes, but they also trust in themselves alone.
Proverbs 28:26, He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, But he who walks wisely will be delivered.
A Fool is Complacent
When those who think like fools have established themselves within their self-protective environment, they are at rest. Proverbs 1:32, “For the waywardness of the naive shall kill them, , And the complacency of fools shall destroy them.
Dealing with a fool can and will consume all of your time and all of your effort if you let it. If a fool has become the focus of your attention consider this…
Foolish thinking is always selfish. The fool has to protect his own interests at all costs. Proverbs 14:6, A scoffer seeks wisdom, and finds none, But knowledge is easy to him who has understanding.
Because God works uniquely in everything he does, he doesn’t promise that he’ll change the fool in your life, but he does promise to give you wisdom and peace as you seek him. Your goal cannot be to have your fool change; instead, your goal must be to find a personal freedom that allows you to be the person God intends for you to be, no matter what choices your fool makes.
One of the stunning facts you will learn on your journey toward wisdom is that it is not about your beloved fool but about you and all God wants to accomplish in your life. Jeremiah 29:11-13, ‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.’Then you will call upon Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. ‘And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.
There is a principle in the scriptures, Proverbs 19:19, A man of great anger shall bear the penalty, For if you rescue him, you will only have to do it again.
The longer someone covers for a fool, the next time it will be greater problem.
If you allow a fool to pollute you will experience Proverbs 22: 24-25, Do not associate with a man given to anger; Or go with a hot-tempered man, Lest you learn his ways, And find a snare for yourself.
“What are you becoming…..as you allow your fool to define you?”…selfish, angry, a liar, physically sick, a fool?!
It is impossible to correct, change, alter, redefine, censure, sweet talk, or reason with a fool….it is impossible! If you try to change your fool you will fail! Proverbs 16:22, Understanding is a fountain of life to him who has it, But the discipline of fools is folly.
Let God deal with your fool! Read 1 Samuel 25:3-39
For more help get, Fool Proofing Your Life: Wisdom for Untangling Your Most Difficult Relationships by Jan Silvious
PS If releasing your fool into God’s care is the “ultimate surrender”, then why does it sometimes feel that letting him go is wrong? That feeling may come as your fool protests the change of attitude he senses in you. Your fool may accuse you of abandoning him, complain that you are changing in ways he doesn’t like, verbally or emotionally assault you for your failure to live up to his expectations, or pull away from you with a punishing silence. To be sure, the fool in your life will not look kindly on your change, because for you to change means that he is no longer in control. Consequently, he will respond with anger in one form or another.
It is important to recognize what your fool’s anger is all about and why it has no power to harm you. Your fool wants to control, so when you leave him to face God and the consequences alone, the fool’s anger will have lost some of its punch. He will become uncomfortable. This may intensify your difficulty for a while, but if you are committed to being a wise person, you will remain steadfast. When you are rejected, badgered, raged at, or manipulated, you will be able to persevere in the course you have chosen if you remember there is great purpose in what you are doing! You are seeking wisdom and a life that pleases God, and you are providing a clear shot for God to deal directly with your fool!!